Thinking about Adoption?

First Care is unique in that we provide support and services for you whether you choose parenting or placing for adoption. When you visit First Care, you will meet with one of our Expectant Parent Social Workers to discuss your personal situation. Our social workers have tools and resources to help you explore all of your pregnancy options, including adoption. Many clients describe their social worker as one who listens without judgment and asks thoughtful questions to help you make a decision that is best for you and your child. You can meet with us for decision making counseling at one of our offices or a coffee shop or other location that is convenient for you and meet as often as needed. All of our services are free.


What does the Adoption Process look like?

1. If you haven’t already, the first step is to meet with one of our social workers to learn about the adoption process and get all of your adoption questions answered.

2. Continue meeting with one of our social workers as often as you want until you feel confident in your pregnancy decision.

3. If you choose adoption, your social worker will help you determine what you want your adoption plan to look like and identify your preferences for an adoptive family. Adoption is a journey and there is a lot to think about. We will talk with you about the process and help you through the steps of adoption. In addition, you can talk with other women who have made adoption plans for their children.

4. Explore waiting families that fit what you are looking for based on what’s important to you in an adoptive family, including family size, location, or lifestyle choices. You will read through detailed profiles of families that match your preferences to get an idea of who they are, why they are adopting, and what their lifestyle looks like. 

5. Select an adoptive family. You can choose to meet a family or two to confirm your choice in an adoptive family. We’ll help you identify questions you may want to ask and we’ll facilitate the meeting for you.

6. Make a hospital birth plan for you and your baby. We can help you figure out your medical insurance needs and help you prepare for the hospital time. It’s up to you how much you want the adoptive family to be at the hospital. You will also create an openness plan for the future that works for you. 

7. The hospital stay can be a difficult time. During your delivery and hospital stay, your social worker will visit and help you sort through the details and the emotions during this time. To support you, both you and the adoptive family will have a social worker available during your stay. 

8. Additionally you can elect to have an entrustment ceremony for you, your child, and the adoptive family. This is a time for your closest family and friends to honor your adoption decision. Our social workers will help you plan for this special ceremony, which can occur in the hospital or in the weeks following the placement of your child.

9. Before you leave the hospital, you will complete paperwork to allow the adoptive family to take the baby home. These are not the final adoption papers – in Minnesota there is a mandatory waiting period of 72 hours after birth before final papers can be signed, but most birth parents prefer to wait at least a few weeks before signing.

10. After the adoption has become final, we offer ongoing support through counseling, connecting you with other birth mothers, facilitating meetings or communication with the adoptive family (if desired), and ongoing post-adoption services. We also host an annual Birth Mother Dinner for all birth mothers to honor you and your choice of adoption.

Talk to Someone

Give us a call or schedule an appointment online to talk about your situation and adoption as an option.

  • Choose the office location that is most convenient for you. We can also meet with you at a location of your choice like a coffee shop.
  • Feel free to bring your partner, a trusted friend or a family member to your appointment.
  • Gather your questions and share your concerns and fears - no question is too big or too small.
  • Plan to meet with us for approximately 1 hour, but we will take as little or as much time as you need to get your questions answered.

To make an appointment, call your local office, email as at, or schedule online.


What is Open Adoption?

Openness in adoption means that there is some type of ongoing relationship between you and the adoptive parents, as well as with the child. First Care encourages some type of openness in adoption, believing that it benefits you, the adoptive parents, and especially your child who was adopted. During the adoption process, we help you think through your options for openness with the adoptive family and come up with a plan that works for you, whether that means a lot of contact or very little. Your open adoption relationships will grow and change over time, just like every relationship in life. We’re here to help you start that relationship off right.

How long do I have to change my mind about adoption?

In Minnesota, adoption papers cannot be signed until at least 3 days after your baby is born. After the paperwork is signed, you then have 10 days to change your mind before your adoption plan becomes final. Your social worker will continue to be a resource to you after the adoption is final and our post adoption services are available for you ongoing as requested.

Do you have adoptive families?

As a licensed adoption agency, we have waiting families that have completed the home study process and are ready to adopt. We help you through the process of selecting on a family that is right for you and your child. 

What if I know a family that wants to adopt?

We can work with them in most cases. Talk with a First Care social worker about what you are looking for in a family. We are dedicated to finding the right fit for you.

Do I need a lawyer?

You don’t need a lawyer in most situations. Our adoption professionals will talk through the legal process with you and answer any questions you have about adoption laws. As a licensed adoption agency, we facilitate full and limited adoptions. If you want to talk to an attorney as well, we can help you find an attorney that understands adoption.

What does it cost?

All of our adoption services are free to birth parents. Adoptive families pay for their home study and the process of adopting. 

What happens after I deliver?

The hospital time can be emotional for everyone and a time to recommit to your decision of adoption. Your social worker will come to the hospital while you are there to help you navigate these emotions and to help with paperwork required for the baby to go home with the adoptive family, if you continue with your adoption plan. Your social worker will continue to meet with you in those early weeks following placement to support you as much or as little as you need through this time. Depending on your openness plan, visits with your child and the adoptive family may also be arranged.

Does the birth father need to be involved?

In Minnesota, birth fathers who are not married to the birth mother need to earn parental rights, which they can do through the Father’s Adoption Registry. We will talk through your unique situation, and can meet with both of you together or separately, depending on your preference. If he is unable to be involved for whatever reasons, we will assist you with the legal steps needed to complete a secure adoption.

How do you support birth mothers?

Birth Mother Day is observed the day before Mother’s Day every May. Because we feel that birth mothers are an invaluable and inspiring group of women who often don’t get recognized for their bravery, we host a dinner every year to honor these women for their sacrificial love and strength. We invite all birth mothers, regardless of whether or not they worked with our adoption agency. 

In addition to our annual Birth Mother Dinner, we are available for counseling to help you process your thoughts and emotions surrounding the adoption. We also provide opportunities for you to share your adoption story (to others considering adoption or to high school classrooms), which can be part of the healing process. 

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